I was having a conversation with an aunt about my cousins who are all grown now. We discussed a matter that has plaguing our Asian culture as well as it’s just common everywhere else. If you’re curious to what that is, it’s that men don’t take the initiative with their potential or actual in-laws. This is another reason why I’m ultimately single in the end because I haven’t met a man who was genuine to take the initiative to do things for me and eventually my family. It doesn’t matter what a race a man is, they don’t do things for others out of the goodness of their heart like they used to. The last few new men I’ve met that tried to show interest in me, surely didn’t take any initiative after we first met. They were ALL selfish, with a “give me” and “do everything for me” attitude.
The problem with most (younger) women nowadays, they just cater to the man who don’t reciprocate. I have a lot of single guy friends of all races. These men have good jobs, but just about all of them can’t figure out why they’re not even good boyfriend material even though they’re handsome and employed. These men don’t take any initiative after first meeting someone. For several of them, they even pay for their dates, but beyond that, they lack domestic duties. Several of them have been notorious to string the ladies along as the women they’ve engaged with are stupid enough to be catering to them with nothing useful long term in return.
So many men from all backgrounds, must be told what to do before they get anything done. So many of those men assume that is enough. It’s awful that they are that way! It’s also more common in most societies where the boyfriend or husband doesn’t work, but the woman does along with bearing the children at the same time. This “new” trend of men being stay at home dads is a joke, all the while they say that women in the workforce encourages feminism. It’s just a lie to prove how lazy men have become! When women have children, they need to stay home to take care of their child(ren) while the man goes to work! The longer husbands are stay at home fathers to their children while their wives work outside of the home, it’s a 100% that HE will be having an affair. Why? How? It’s because he has more free time! Also, just as with celebrity couples, it’s the husbands who initially cheat while their wife is being the bread winner when he SHOULD be!
I reside in a prominent city nowadays. It doesn’t take much to see men and women on “dating” apps, preferably seeking something long term, only to be shut down to having another one-night stand or a failed date all together. It’s more common in big cities, where both genders don’t care to settle down as much, but see more options to have sex with. Both men and women will never be happy with their sex life until they learn to love their bodies and their partner! So many people assume that they need to be with a lot of partners to fulfill their sexual urges, when in fact, they don’t. Most people are just terrible with having sex without realizing they are, so they just keep on attaining more partners, accumulating more bad sex rather than fixing their own problem.
Both genders are selfish, it’s not just men, for women are lazy too! There’s a reason why so many wealthy men have affairs with other women when they’re supposed to be exclusive, to their much younger “fashion model” wife or girlfriend. The women these men have been with lack true substance beyond looking pretty in photos. No matter what, men will continue to be with dumb women because their hormones told them so rather than be happy with someone intelligent who may not be petite by comparison.
Whether you choose to stay single for the rest of your life or still desire a husband or wife, take into consideration the type of people who’ve come and gone so far. How can you learn from your past mistakes and improve your life? We don’t see ourselves, others see us, and at times, they’re there to judge us! Anyone who brags that they’re the perfect boyfriend or husband material, really isn’t, since a genuine good person doesn’t brag about themselves. Self-proclaimed vanity is a concept shunned in southeast Asian cultures!
While many people have removed themselves from either having a biological family of their own, they still seek a “family” amongst their friends and occasionally colleagues. The truth is that with friends verses actual family, there’s more false hope into acceptance and those people will come and then disappear faster from one’s life. Unless someone comes from a severely broken home of extreme neglect and abuse, this surely doesn’t apply on any level.
Rebelling against traditions and abandoning religion one is brought up practicing, has plagued families in recent times. Most people in the past hundred years of east Asian heritage, have abandoned the religion of their parents for and those of European heritage, have opted eastern religions instead of their usual Christianity. Younger generations of Central and South American heritage have slowly been showing interest in far eastern religions while still holding onto their Christianity. Most people of African heritage, have been using a combination of old tribal and mainstream “religion” as part of their everyday life. As people abandon their faith, most don’t balance what it means to keep their family around.
Our parents aren’t perfect, but when we become parents ourselves, we want what’s best for our children even if it’s a collaboration of different religions and cultures separate from what we had. For some parents, they regret who they either married or had children with overall due to either a semi-arranged situation or bad engagement of sorts. Does a potential daughter or son in-law take any initiative to assist in either or both cooking and cleaning without having to be told what to do? Does the potential son in-law work more than his wife so that she can be tending to their child(ren) they just had?
Reflecting on my own life, I realize that I’ve never had a man sincerely interested in me that took any initiative in any social setting without being asked by either me or another. It doesn’t matter what race or heritage he comes from, men nowadays from all walks of life don’t take any family related initiative because SOOOOO many of them have become extremely lazy to do anything physical! While so many younger men have been spending money to be part of a gym, not one has any physical and social strength. It’s ironic, but they’re wimpier than those before them!
If a man refuses to do anything for me, what are the chances he’s going to do anything for my parent(s) or my other family members? He won’t, he never will! Men who purposely refuse to provide for his own immediate family, don’t make good boyfriends and husbands since they won’t even take care of their spouse. The real reason most men from all walks of life haven’t seemed to figure out why they can’t hold onto a romantic relationship, is because they’re lazy and not one of them realizes how lazy they are!