Jungle boy doesn’t really know for now how old jungle girl (me) really is. Since he’s young and extremely stubborn, he didn’t get the chance to learn something important in life. The other two essays are about my loss of him after learning their darkest secret. I want to share something from a professional business perspective that I other people learn from.
When we don’t face our life fears, this will affect how we perform professionally since we won’t be empathetic to the needs of others. In just about any industry, we must show empathy not sympathy! With empathy, we reach the core of a person or even another business to generate more with. Since jungle boy is extremely handsome, he did seem too good to be true. He had a dark secret that he never received closure from. In his private life, he took flight to a certain situation and never did fight it. As a woman and what I endured, I always put up a fight first before eventually taking flight!
Whatever industry a person works in, we need to also put up a fight, to become successful long term. Jungle boy never really had any legit job but random sales gig until I met him, so he wouldn’t understand the importance of putting up a fight even in the world of business. When I’ve read the biographies of most self-made billionaires, they’ve all put up a fight in their said industry! Just like many musicians and actors, MOST were originally rejected, but put up a fight in what they do and are successful as they age verses those who’ve given up resulting in suicide or drug abuse. Jungle boy relies on his looks to get himself by and it’ll only last for so long until people learn of his dark secret.
I’ve been very fortunate to be surrounded by people who have helped me endure my tragedies and loss. Those friends aren’t perfect but have been a great deal of comfort to my pain. Jungle boy doesn’t really have anyone he can a shoulder to cry on and he’s never had that yet. He never let his emotional pain go, and in the world of business that will affect results.
Youths are ignorant. They think they can handle the world, but, they can’t even overcome what’s are home. A happy home results in a good job performance! When personal relationships fail, so does the job! When people give up in the home, they’ve proven to give up on the job! He’s had success at doing one particular job, but that’s because he numbed his personal life.
I never got a chance to, but would have loved for jungle boy to have been my successor as a Professional Socialite. He’s the perfect specimen due his similarities to me, but hopefully he can survive his pain and suffering like I have. I was the underdog when I started and he’s already starting as one too since he doesn’t know the business professional scene like I’ve had to rush to figure out! He hasn’t seen it and most definitely hasn’t participated in any of it. I’ll sign him up as an option but won’t allow him to attend anything I do until he does apologize in person and add me back on social media!
I had to learn the hard way to navigate the business professional life. I had to learn about so many companies I’ve never heard of and what they do. I’ve received some suggestions along the way of what I can or should do at times but that wasn’t even immediate. I’ve met people who were surprised to meet me since they found events through my listings. Many random strangers want the scoop to have all the fun and getting as much as they can for free!
Jungle boy doesn’t know any of that, yet! He currently sees things like a room with no windows to see out. I know I’ve been a harsh on him, it’s because I’m anxious and can’t physically tackle the professional party seen due to aging as a woman. He may have received an award in sales, but he doesn’t have a “overcoming life fears” award! I started out shy and nervous and jungle boy is mostly confident other than dealing with me!
What makes him the ideal successor is that the first letters of Professional Socialite are also his initials! It’s fitting that when or if he comes back around to me, he will be taking on something that isn’t a job but a lifestyle. I can sense he’s secretly snobby but in general he’s a nice person. I saw something in him that he doesn’t see in himself. I saw someone who was also a lost soul just like me but hasn’t made closure. I originally saw perfect, yet deep in his soul he was more imperfect than me. He’s stubborn as I was once that way. He’s business smart and I’m emotionally smarter than him. He’s a father to two sons, I’m a mother to two daughters. We’ve had loss in our lives. He produced imperfect children, whereas, mine are perfect to make up myself being imperfect! It’s only fitting that a very imperfect perfect person becomes the one to take the business world by storm all from their presence and conversational intelligence!
The imperfectness of the ever so perfect jungle boy, is what made my heart be in love with him when I learnt that about him.
By reading body language of people, we know how to make a sale and make a business deal. We need to listen how they speak and what words they choose to say, so that when we’re making a professional connection, it’s permanent and not just a temporary one. We shouldn’t just care to close a deal, we should make sure we have a business marriage instead that will never divorce!
So, if you are a reader and are curious why I used the words: jungle girl and jungle boy, it’s in reference of our heritage. Even though he and I weren’t raised in a real jungle, our ethnic heritage is rooted from the rain forest steeped in mountains close to the equator but in far opposite ends of each hemisphere. It’s not racist, it’s not degrading, it’s the truth! Also, he and I are both living in a figurative jungle now as adults.